In 2001 Destiny’s Child brought us Survivor, and independent women stood up to be accounted for. We wanted our own jewellery, our own cars, and our own houses. We wanted to be in complete control of our destinies and no man could stop us.
Was this all BS?
Lately I’ve realised that it probably is. Some women want to be financially independent, but complain if a man doesn’t open a car door for them. Some women proclaim to WANT a man but not NEED one, but then they need him to pay on their dates. Some women don’t want to be told what to do, but then rely on a man to wear a condom. Some women don’t want to be judged on their looks, but say this whilst flashing their best ASSets.
Either you’re independent or you’re not. If you want to be treated equally then you shouldn’t be able to pick and choose when this happens, because men definitely can’t. They’re always expected to go to work, always expected to pay for protection even though sex (usually) involves another person, is dumped if they share the cost of a date, and so much more. Is that equality?
Can you choose when to be ‘equal’?
It even goes men versus women. You might not want to be judged for being non-white, homosexual, disabled, etc but if you stood to gain something for being ‘different’ from a ‘white, heterosexual male’, would you let being equal slide…?
Instead of saying, “I’m an independent woman” maybe we should be saying, “Yeah, I’m an independent woman…when I feel like it.”