We’re not. Some of us are, but not all, especially not myself.

We know about this stereotype that black women are fat, angry and darn loud…are you? Maybe you are, maybe you aren’t, but why are we all tarnished with the same image?

Being a black person can be hard for many reasons, but the one that I’ll focus on today is whenever one black person does something we all go down with him/her. For example, an overweight, black woman might squeeze herself into the ugliest outfit on earth and strut off down the street. I bet there’ll always be someone who says something like, “She’s an embarrassment to black community.” But why? Why can’t she just shame herself, and maybe even her family and friends?

Then there’s gun and knife crime, that’s getting worse and worse. A black teenage boy somewhere goes around carrying a knife, so then every black teenager is suddenly a suspect?

To make matters worse, we seem to be the only race who’s ‘lucky’ enough to have a representative for us all. I don’t remember voting for Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson to speak on my behalf…when was that poll taken?

My point is, if a black woman is rude to you….a black woman is rude to you. She may be a rude, stuck up cow, but remember that’s just HER, not ME.

Actually, now I am feeling a bit angry….

Well, not ugly, but just not a ‘great beauty’, according to famous, black supermodel Iman (David Bowie’s partner). I was FURIOUS when I read what Iman had said. She talks about how typical beauties look worse and worse as they age, unlike Michelle who gets better. Language barriers may have distorted what she was saying, and or maybe she meant that Michelle is attractive but defies the ageing process by looking better and better with age.

I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt.

I was on a forum where black women discuss all sorts of things. I had expected them to defend Michelle because there are always topics on dark skin versus light skin, and how they should be seen as equal. Instead they basically sided with Iman by saying that Michelle isn’t attractive but ‘unique’. What is that supposed to mean?

The media always pushes the blonde, blue-eyed, white women to the front of the pack, and the brunettes, blacks, Asians, and everyone else who doesn’t fit the ‘perfect’ image gets forgotten. Here comes Michelle Obama who clearly doesn’t look like the ‘fantastic’ Marilyn Monroe. Finally the media is willing to show a well dressed, well educated, well mannered, classy black woman with a bright future ahead of her, but what happens? People tear her apart!

The hypocrisy is astounding! All the time many black women complain that it’s always Rihanna, Beyonce, and Halle Berry who get the shine because they’re light skinned, but then a dark skinned woman becomes one of the most powerful women in the world and she’s still not good enough!

Returning to the ‘great beauty’ Iman:

1. Real beauty never fades.

2.The most ‘beautiful’ women dont’t need make-up, airbrushing, and validation from the media or supermodels.

5. Get over yourself! Don’t go around judging others because no one is perfect, not even you.